One of the most common words in Christianity today is ‘Forgiveness’, and that’s not surprising because it constitutes the core of our faith. We are Christians because we have been forgiven by God and now, we have been commanded to forgive others as well.
However, before forgiveness comes offense. We only have to forgive people after we have been offended. Offense necessitates forgiveness. We know that offense will always come at us, but the best way to handle it is seen in James 1:19.
Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
It takes wisdom and a lot of self-control, as influenced by the Holy Spirit to ignore an insult, especially with how easily it is thrown around these days on our social media platforms, Twitter being the worst of them all. These days, savagery is the order of the day and for some reason, many have taken pride in being on the giving end. But it is possible and more importantly, it is necessary to not be easily offended.
Getting offended means you have to forgive, and that is usually harder. Either way, giving in to offense and unforgiveness in the long run, can be harmful to your relationship with God. You can learn to do this by deliberately looking away from the bad attitudes of others, giving possible excuses for their bad actions and praying for them. Aremo Olalekan rightly said that hearts of love are especially forged in the place of intercession. This does not mean however, that we will not address any form of conflicts that needs to be addressed.
The love of God has been shed abroad in our hearts because of the Holy Spirit in us. An understanding of the God kind of love will help you as well. We see a breakdown of what love truly entails in 1 Corinthians 13. The fifth verse of that chapter says that love is not easily provoked.
So you see, it is possible to not be easily offended. Sometimes, anger will get the better part of you, but we do not stop. We strive to continue to work at it with the help of the Holy Spirit.